December 11, 2016 by Paula Reed Nancarrow
I am on the phone with my parents, who live one thousand and sixty-seven miles away in upstate New York.
I am twenty-two. I am living with two other women in a peach colored stucco triplex on the corner of 32nd and Emerson. We didn’t have stucco in New York, or if we did, I’d never noticed it. In Minneapolis, stucco is everywhere, liked canned icing on a Betty Crocker cake. But peach: that stands out.
I have just finished my first year of graduate school in English at the University of Minnesota. I’ve become a vegetarian. I am deconstructing James Joyce. I pay rent.
My parents had planned on coming out to see me that summer, but are telling me on the phone now that they’ve have changed their minds.
They have changed their minds because during spring break I had gone to visit my old college boyfriend David, who was a VISTA worker in South Carolina, where he was educating textile workers about brown lung. Yes, that was a thing.
They have changed their minds because I had stayed in his apartment. My parents did not approve of this visit, so they had to take a stand.
My mother doesn’t really take stands. My father takes stands, and my mother agrees with them. That is how you get along with my father. Especially now that he is retired. You can take the principal out of the school, my brother says, but you can’t take the school out of the principal. All that concentrated authority has to go somewhere.
My mother is silent while my father explains their position.
I can tell she is on the upstairs phone because of the extra static. My ear is to the receiver, but I’m not really listening. Instead I’m hearing my father’s old two-part refrain, familiar from all our battles during my adolescence – over religion, over politics, over sex.
When you are twenty-one, you can do what you like. But as long as you’re living in my house and I’m paying the bills, you will do what I say. I am your father.
Twenty-one was the magic age because it was when my father had legally been allowed to vote, and to drink, in Pennsylvania. Both of those privileges had been granted to me in New York at the age of 18 because boys in Vietnam had died before they could do either.
I speak into the receiver.
“You told me that when I was twenty-one I could make my own decisions.”
“A father has to use his influence,” he insists.
“You’re not responsible for me anymore, remember?”
“I am still your father,” I hear him say. “I will always be your father.”
Then I’m startled by my mother’s disembodied voice.
“Why do you even tell us these things?” she asks. The line crackles. “When it’s something you know we don’t approve of, why don’t you just keep it to yourself?”
Before I can even answer, my father interrupts. “Oh no,” he says.
And there is a rhythm to his punctuated words. I can practically see his middle finger stamping them into the air as he stands by the kitchen phone. “Don’t encourage her to be a liar. I want to know everything. I’m her father. She shouldn’t hide anything from me. ”
“Don’t come then,” I say.
Later that day, I call David. We haven’t talked since that my visit. Which in truth had not gone that well. He was an old boyfriend for a reason.
“I have some free time this summer,” I say. “Do you want to come up? Bet you’ve never seen peach stucco.” We make arrangements. I do not tell my parents. When the visit ends in our breakup – as I pretty much knew it would – I do not tell them that either.
Told at the November 2016 StorySlamMN!, for the theme “Lies.”